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When You Feel Like You’re Not Nailing It – Find Stillness
Between you and me, my brain feels like syrup lately. Emails take longer to answer, writing blogs or sections of texts are taking multiple attempts and I’m finding that I’m walking away from podcast interviews feelings like I didn’t hit my points very well.Sometimes I...
What Homer Simpson & Tony Soprano Taught Me About Rethinking ‘Work’
First up, if you'd rather listen to this one? Episode 4 of my new podcast is less than 10 minutes.I was never allowed to watch the Simpsons as a kid. When I was 10 or so we got a new fridge (a Simpson) I drew a picture of the Simpsons family as fridges (hilarious) and...
In Case of Deer: Why You Need Backups
Last weekend our family indulged in one of our lockdown rituals – a therapeutic burn off. Fallen leaves, dead branches get tidied up with a bonfire and then we toast marshmallows. We’d run out of bread for sandwiches for lunch, so I created some novelty by making...
Marketing without social media – what it looks like for me
This week I thought I’d give you a peak into what marketing looks like for me without social media. When More Than a Healthy Baby came out last December there was no launch. No in person events, and I’ve yet to see a copy in an actual bookstore. We were primarily...
I have a new podcast!
I love writing, but I’ve missed chatting. Don’t get me wrong, I loved interviewing guests on the birth trauma training for birth workers podcast, but for this season of life, it was simply becoming too time consuming. So, this second offering is broader in focus, very...
Taking Stock: Midyear Check In
Something a bit different this week. My mid 2021 taking stock post. A few points of ponder anyway. The idea of a taking stock post is something I’ve borrowed from Meet Me at Mike’s – a blog I’ve been readings since…maybe 2006? Here’s a bit of what I'm up...
What ‘counts’ as birth trauma?
There’s a part of me that can’t believe I’m even writing an article on this. For me, the answer to “what is considered a traumatic birth?” is super simple. A birth is traumatic if you say it is. Yet, it’s still the question people ask me in interviews, in therapy, in...
The chocolate game and chubby bunny: Don’t dim your light to fit in
Visibility and birthday parties...there's a lesson in thereMy Mother’s Group is still close some 5.5 years later. We rarely see each other but still check in with milestones and news. A conversation came up about birthday parties in the time of covid-19 and how much...
I Got Condolence Flowers on My Birthday
Hi Erin A funny, not so funny story this week. About the stretch for finding gratitude. Last Thursday was my birthday. A memorable one for sure. Like many Victorians, I experienced a night of scary winds, power cuts and massive trees falling down. As a mother of young...
Bull kelp or bamboo tree? The lesson I’m still in as I approach my 38th year
Recognise any of these broken records?I have to work hard in order to deserve time offOr maybe you take time out, rest but then fall into:I now have to manifest, create or launch something on account of having restedTruthfully, I still sometimes struggle with both. It...
Lessons from my 6 foot Kangaroo: Strength & Going Inwards
I hope this week’s blog/email is finding you well. Nothing fancy this week - but a strong visual to inspire and entertain you. A reminder that small encouragers are everywhere, even if things feel a bit shit.I wrote this one last week knowing that another...
How to keep creating when you think it’s all been done before
An old chestnut that’s been coming up in mentoring this week is the blocking statement “it’s been done before”Of course it has. Your job (as I see it) is to say “yes, but not in my voice” and keep going.Do you think the staff at Vogue sit down before every winter and...
You should test that – how Netflix got Offspring all wrong
You might be familiar with the concept of Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANTs) – all the well-worn but broken record thoughts, assumptions and beliefs that we have. If you are a health practitioner working with clients in counselling, coaching or a similar role you may...
I quit social media. As a Psychologist, an Author and a Mum, Here’s What I learned
So I'm done with social media. Whether it's for now or forever, I don't know, but here's what I've learned:A quick recap – I decided to ‘detox’ from social media for 8 weeks. Starting on International Women’s Day, through to Mother’s Day. My aim was to test the...
8 things I did with my 8 weeks off social media
This week I read that people spend an average of 2 hours and 20 minutes on social media per day. These are pre-covid stats, so it’s probably more than that.While I wasn’t actually spending 2 hours a day for my business on social media platforms, I was definitely...
Week 7 of social media detox: Parental Burnout Vs Postnatal Depression
Your ability to generate power is directly proportional to your ability to relax – David AllenFirstly, a wee update on how my detox is going. I’ll write a longer piece as the 8 weeks comes to a close, but at this stage I feel like the writing is on the wall – I’m not...
Week 6 of social media detox: rats, cats, Heart Break High and ageing
You know that question people ask in interviews – where do you see yourself in 5 years (or, gulp, 10 years?). I realized I’ve never asked that of myself when it comes to social media. And yet, for years I would say social media was part of my job, quite a big part of...
Want to write a book but putting it off? Here’s 5 steps to get it done
As I hit week 5 of my social media detox, I thought I’d share my 5 tips for getting a book written AND a bit of fabulous snowballing (when you research one thing and find yourself finding 5 other amazing things):Step 1: Accept that you’re overthinking itI’ve just...
Week 4 social media detox: mental health check in & a 40 day writing challenge
Halfway point check in for this experiment. This post is a little longer. Might want to grab a cuppa Firstly, now that I’m 4 weeks in, I wanted to re-assess myself with the DASS – a screening tool that asks you about symptoms of Depression, Anxiety and Stress in the...
Week 3 social media detox – where do I actually make my money from?
This week I decided to spend some time going under the hood of my business and see where my traffic and sales actually come from. Have you taken the time to test what’s working in terms of the hours and money you put in versus what you’re getting back? My business has...
Week 2 social media detox: The perfect storm of Matrescence, mental health & social media addiction
I’m at the two week mark of my social media pause.Surprisingly I really don’t miss social media all that much, but I’ve been a bit ‘twitchy’ this past week.As I delve further into the book I’m reading on Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport I’m noticing a few rookie...
Week 1 of my social media detox and I’ve already made more money in my business
I’m one week into my social media pause. Here’s some of my insights about how I’m feeling and the HUGE results I’ve seen in my business and finances so far: Last Friday, something seriously freaky happened. I woke up feeling some acceptance and a tiny bit of trust....
An experiment with my mental health, social media & business
So if you’re on social media you may have seen (or not – damn algorithms!) that I’m currently on a break with social media. It’s coming up to 4 years since I started social media for my business and it’s occurred to me that I’ve never actually reviewed it. Does it...
Rest and not Reinventing the Wheel – Even Disney does it
Confession time: I have a LONG history of choosing the more difficult option when the ‘easy’ option would probably get me the same (or better results): Being convinced to write a PhD thesis that was 600 pages instead of the typical 150 (in my defence one of my markers...
Babies seeing ghosts, teen dating & elders with depression: How NOT to position yourself as an expert
Giving your time to provide a quote for media is an easy way to gain some visibility and position yourself as an expert. From my 5 or so years experience I've definitely learned some interesting lessons in how the word of media works. The advice I give all my new...