This week I read that people spend an average of 2 hours and 20 minutes on social media per day. These are pre-covid stats, so it’s probably more than that.
While I wasn’t actually spending 2 hours a day for my business on social media platforms, I was definitely spending hours a week (maybe 6 or 7) in my business with activities related to social media strategy. Writing, planning, sourcing photos, editing, researching, and scheduling content and then all the answering messages, responding to comments etc. For someone with young kids who only works about 10 hours a week, this was a huge time drain and frequently bled into my weekends.
Here’s 8 things I did instead of spending my time on social media:
1. Finished reading 8 books
And started 8 more. I’ve read more books in 8 weeks than I have in 8 years. I’ll add another post about that soon.
2. Started a 40 day book writing challenge
(with Leonie Dawson’s write a book in 40 days course)
3. Wrote a book
At the time of writing, I’m on day 30, and I’ve written almost 40, 000 words which is a very respectable effort for a first draft. Especially since this was not the book I’d planned on writing this year.
The whole process of journaling and self-reflecting about my social media detox lead me to researching social media, motherhood and mental health which just naturally fell into a book
4. Found more time in my calendar for 1:1 mentoring sessions
Without planning, creating and sharing on social media I’ve had a couple of extra hours in my work week. People have been resonating with my weekly email/blogs and then just hitting the reply button or booking into my calendar. No circling around, no chasing, people have just booked. Easy peasy
(if you want mentoring about business as a helper/healer/health professional you can book in HERE)
5. Started learning to use my Ipad for artwork
Using Procreate. I suck. I still don’t really know how to use it. I Googled a tutorial on how to make a glitter effect then wanted to cry in frustration, but I made a start. And, there’s no doubt a course I could take.
6. Challenged the notion that I “need” social media for work
In fact, I made the most money I’ve made in a single month from my passive income streams (courses, books, royalties from recorded speaking engagements) in spite of being absent from social media
7. Spent more time with people and made new friendships
I discovered that my 3 year old’s best friend actually lives in our street. That we’ve been going to the same daycare for 2.5 years and all through lockdowns and everything else we had no idea we lived so close.
How embarrassing! but also what a gift! Without the old routine of friending people on Facebook I’ve been bolder about just inviting people to hang out.
8. Joined the #funsquad
Oh, it’s a real thing. One of my biggest takeaways from my social media detox is that Mums are stuck in this soundtrack of “I’m too tired, I’ve got Mum brain” so they numb out with low-quality leisure activities.
Of course we’re addicted to social media. Now, I love guys in hoodies who live in Silicon Valley (a few of them in my family!) but I resent being a rat in their brain hacking experiments. Small pellets of dopamine for low effort is good enough, right?
No. We deserve better than that. We deserve spending our time doing things we really, truly enjoy.
After reading how to Break up With Your Phone I Googled Catherine Price and found that she’s now working on a book about fun being an essential ingredient in a joyful, well-lived life. As dorky as it sounds, I agree that we need to strategize and plan for fun in our lives otherwise we will default to our old habits.
If you want to join me (and increase Catherine’s sample size), you can sign up HERE. You complete a 10 minute baseline survey then she emails you regular assignments and surveys.
My detox officially ends on Sunday, which is Mother’s Day in Australia. I’ll be sitting in bed with my glass of Mumm celebrating the fact that I didn’t relapse on my detox even once. I feel clearer, calmer and more creative. I got more done and made more money without sacrificing my sleep.
I’ve spent more time with my girls without constantly feeling the need to have social media in the background of our time together. If I feel irritated, bored or restless while waiting for them to get shoes on or playing at the park then I’m learning to sit with that feeling.
I still have a problem relationship with my phone. There’s no denying that. I read How to break up with your phone but haven’t committed to actioning that detox yet. I still binge watch, sleep with it next to me and pick it up and stare at it for no reason. Reducing my phone use is a much bigger hurdle for me to tackle than breaking up with social media and I’m not sure I’m ready. I’ll keep you posted.
I’m working on a longer social media detox wrap up with my final depression, anxiety, and stress symptoms check in next week. I won’t be logging back into social media to post it. For now, I’m just sticking with the approach of walking away and not looking back.
I’m also working on a couple of new courses:
course creation for the caring professions (how I went from 1 sale to 2000 in 12 months)
a course on how to detox from social media
If you identify as a mother and/or celebrate mother’s day, then happy mother’s day for Sunday.