Birth trauma support

More than a Healthy Baby 1:1 sessions

 I offer highly intuitive, top level support for birth trauma. 

Either a one off birth debrief, or as a package of support

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A one off birth debrief. 90 minutes to unpack and unwind. I’ll give you 2-3 manageable, practical coping tips to walk away with.

This is a good starting point if you just want to dip your toe in and see what might be possible. We might continue working together from here, or we might not. A birth trauma debrief is not therapy. It’s typically not going to serve as a stand alone option for trauma, but it is a starting point.

This may also be a good option if someone in your life could use some support (a client, friend or family member) and you want to gift them with this postpartum support rather than more baby stuff 😊

Cost: $376.50 AU for up to 90 minutes

You can book HERE

The More than a Healthy Baby Method

Support over 3 months to get you from struggling to thriving. This is the method I’ve used myself with my own two traumatic births and what I’ve been teaching clients for the last 10+ years.

The 4-5 key areas from More than a Healthy Baby are:

Step 1: Human 101 check (diving into your general physical, social and emotional support – creating the eco system and safety net for you to do this work)

Step 2: Understanding WTF just happened and why it’s not your fault

Step 3: Mind-body trauma strategies

Step 4: Self-compassion practices

Step 5: Phoenix from the ashes: Strength, growth and lifelong coping

This is a guide. Working 1:1 with me is a highly individualised, tailored experience based on 10+ years of experience of doing this work. This is not some generic, manualised round of CBT or other therapy you could get elsewhere (note, there is absolutely nothing wrong with this approach, it’s just not how I roll). My approach is high end. Evidence-based, but with extras. All the strategies I teach are things I’ve used myself. My own births have been the blueprint for this work. I don’t take you anywhere I haven’t been myself.

Want to see if it’s a good fit? Book a free call HERE

The More than a Healthy Baby Method – what is it?

A global package to suit birthing people with kindness, compassion, and flexibility in mind. A lot of hard work, but room for humour, play and laughter. Trauma work doesn’t have to be all shadow, there’s light in there too. My approach is part therapy, part coaching, all from your computer or phone.

STEP ONE.  Unpack and unwind

What happens in this step?

We get a coffee or tea, turn off all distractions and sit down and unpack what happened to you. This is YOUR time to tell your story filter free. No interruptions, no need to worry about couching anything or protecting someone else’s feelings or reactions. There’s no judgement, no platitudes, no clichés. Know that I’ve been there – twice. Know that I’ve been holding space for these stories for well over a decade. I got you.

We also check in with Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. We get a whole picture of you, not just your story and your symptoms. I go into detective mode and really take a good look at sleep, nutrition, social support and everything and anything that could possibly impact (a) how you’re feeling in general and (b) the eco system that needs to be in place in order for you to do trauma work.
STEP TWO. Understanding WTF just happened

Most of us were not taught anything about trauma at school. Nor we were taught a whole lot about our nervous system, how the brain works with emotions and memory and how to cope with all of it. Once you understand some of the fundamentals of trauma and coping you’ll start to feel a whole lot less shame, guilt and failure. You’ll start to see this experience as a nervous system event and not a personal failing.

What happens in this step?

Lots of teaching and self-reflection about the brain-body connection. We look into what your body is trying to tell you, what it all means and how to work with it.

STEP THREE.  Mind-body trauma strategies

Now that you understand trauma and how it’s stored in the body, we can get to work on teaching you how to integrate it. There’s no curing or fixing (because you’re not broken!). I don’t see trauma as fitting very well within the medical model of: “assess, diagnose, treat and cure”. Instead, I work holistically from perspective that (a) trauma is a teacher and (b) integrating and strength finding.

What happens in this step?

I teach you a range of practical, life-long tools to manage unwanted thoughts, emotions and bodily sensations. We set you up with a super manageable coping and self-care plan. If suitable, we talk about the scope for support outside of Western medicine, working with and integrating other complementary practices and practitioners (e.g., movement, Chinese Medicine, holistic pelvic care).

STEP FOUR. Self-compassion practices

This is the deep dive stuff. Finding news ways of making meaning from your story. Beginning to see your strength and choosing growth and self-compassion.

What happens in this step?

We make personalized, meaningful self-compassion practices your new normal. What you focus on you get more of, so we are making pleasure and fun your birth right. While we do this, we are creating new neural pathways and rewriting the story.

STEP FIVE. Phoenix from the ashes: Strength, growth and lifelong coping

You get to see how far you’ve come. What tools you’ve learned that you’ll be able to take and teach others (your kids, your partner, your colleagues, everyone you know!).

What happens in this step?       

While I can’t make any promises, most clients in this phase are amazed to look back and see what they used to say, think and feel about their trauma and how much has changed. The trauma itself doesn’t change, but they are generally feel a lot lighter and a whole lot stronger when they think and talk about it.

These are lifelong coping skills so impactful that you only need to do this once. You’ll adjust and tweak and keep being a life long learner, but this is the stuff that will set you up for life. You’re going to feel like you got the golden ticket into Willy Wonka’s factory, and your busting through that glass ceiling of all your old bullshit. This is the stuff you’ll teach your kids, your colleagues and your family. The stuff we WISH was taught in schools from Day 1.

Book a free call HERE 

What’s the structure?

We work together for around 3 months, with 12 to 14 sessions of 50 minutes each.

We start with one longer session of 90 mins to 2 hours because that’s usually how long it takes to unpack a birth and possibly multiple births.

You also get:

A clinical assessment (if you want and/or need one). Some people really need or want that diagnosis to communicate to their partner, family or boss what’s going on for them. Up to you. I also do basic assessment so that I can ensure online support will be right for you (e.g., if you’re struggling with severe PTSD, psychosis or are actively suicidal then online support won’t best serve you).

Accountability and assignments

Personalized macro and micro coping plan

Mind-body connection work (not just talking)

Weekly check ins via email, text, messenger or wassap

What’s the benefits of working with me this way (as opposed to traditional therapy?)

I have a LOT of experience in this area. I know how hard it can be to get to a session depending on what sort of night you’ve had. Getting dressed, finding parking, sitting in a waiting room can all add stress that doesn’t need to be there.

I don’t believe that all talking is the answer either. I teach practical embodiment strategies that not only will you use for the rest of your life (and wonder how you managed without them) but you get to spread the dandelion seeds and teach them to your kids, your family and your colleagues.

The benefit of picking a highly-trained Psychologist’s brain, without the burden of the medical model of assess, diagnose and treat.

The reassurance that I can walk the walk. Not all coaches have experience, confidence or success with going to the darkest of dark places. I have successfully helped thousands of people through the most harrowing of experiences (suicidal ideation, psychosis, severe depression, addiction and harmful behaviours).

I have been there. What I went through with my own two births was the template for the strength and peace I teach others. Have I spent countless hours wishing I didn’t have traumatic births? Yes! But I’ve come to believe there was purpose in it. That I was called to do this work.

I’ve set up sustainable practices. I only take on a few clients a month. I only work two days per week. I ensure that I have the energy and the focus to be able to fully support my clients because this work is HARD. The burn out rate for people in this work is high. I’ve had to figure out how to keep working with trauma without burning myself into the ground. I can’t be banging on about self-care when I’m burning through 9 clients a day, 5 days a week (been there, done that!). I have to lead by showing my students and registrars that I teach that there is another way to work with trauma without going broke because you’re trying to help everyone and keep working for free.

PRICING

Your investment to work 1:1 with me is $3514 AU if all upfront or;

$4514 on a payment plan (one payment of $1504 each month for 3 months)

How do we get started?

Book a free discovery call HERE

QUESTIONS

Can my baby or children attend sessions?

As a general rule, no these sessions are for you and prioritizing your own growth. Having some child care is going to be necessary for this work to be effective. But there are caveats.

For babes in arms age (e.g., younger than 6 months) it’s a maybe. It depends on what we’re doing that day. Be mindful that your baby is highly attuned to stress, and if you’re filtering yourself, distracted or your baby is distressed that’s not productive for either of us.

Let’s just take it as it comes and communicate rather than you panic if childcare falls through

Can my partner, doula or other support person attend?

Yes, if it’s helpful you can definitely have a support person sit with you for a few sessions. Just understand that this is primarily 1:1 work, not couples or group support.

 Why do I have to book a package? Can’t I just book week to week and see how I go?

  1. Commitment and organization is important in trauma work. Booking a package ensures that there’s actually a spot in my calendar for you on the day/times you want. My rule of thumb has always been that’s it’s much easier to change an existing appointment then to find a brand new one.
  2. Making a financial commitment signals to yourself, me, and the universe that you’re ready. That you’re not here to just see how things go, but you’re setting a clear intention.
  3. Self-sabotage, quitting and making excuses are HUGE factors in trauma work. Experience has taught me that most people will want to quit or ghost me when things get tough. It’s totally normal. Self-sabotaging is also normal. Setting yourself up with the commitment at the start ensures that you continue to see our work together through till the end – even when it’s rough. It also means I’m not sitting there wondering if I have the capacity to take on a new client if I haven’t heard from you in a while and am not sure if you’re coming back.
  4. I like to have an end goal in mind. I’m not someone who strings clients along for years without a clear idea of where we are headed.

Why do you charge that much? Other Psychologists are cheaper

I charge the recommended rate set by the Australian Psychological Society which is $251.00AU per 50 minute session. I’m a senior Clinical Psychologist with a PhD. I have over 10 years experience and I supervise and train other Psychologists and registrars. Birth trauma is my absolute passion and area of expertise. That might not be the level of expertise and speciality that you need, which is fine, there are other choices!

But if you want to work with me, then you acknowledge that you’re paying me for results. That one breakthrough that will get you to where you want to be.

I have given THOUSANDS of hours of free therapy over my career. I did free work as an intern for more than two years. I’ve worked with the homeless, people just out of prison, people living in deep poverty. I’ve experienced years of turning up to work and earning zero dollars for that day because people don’t show up or can’t pay. I’ve had countless Medicare rebates that bounced, accounts that were never settled, reports that were never paid for. Salaried positions in private practice are rare and seldom lead to stable positions, so I’m ok with saying I’ve done my time 😊

Most therapists don’t tell you how many clients they see in a day, or how many people are on their books. In order to create a sustainable business and give my full attention and care to each client, I need to charge a premium price point. This way, I only take on a handful of clients each month. This ensures that you’re not the 4th, 5th or even 9th person I’ve talked to about trauma today. I’ve worked like this in the past when I’ve worked in someone else’s business. Charging less money, but seeing more clients and it’s not sustainable. It’s led to burn out and no time for self-care.

Why don’t you offer Medicare rebates?

There’s a few reasons for this:

  1. Medicare rebates for online therapy are only available if a client lives in a remote area (zones 4-7 under the Monash model). This means that only a really small percentage of people are eligible for this rebate anyway.
  2. Strictly speaking, a Psychologist offer a Medicare rebate can only offer CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) or IPT (Interpersonal Therapy). I prefer to have the flexibility to use other modalities (including coaching rather than therapy or in addition to therapy) if it’s best for the person in front of me.
  3. You’ll need a diagnosis and ongoing appointments with your GP to receive a rebate which may or may not suit you.
  4. Medicare only grants a maximum of 10 sessions per calendar year, which simply isn’t enough in my experience.
  5. Most people don’t realize just how much admin work is involved in being a Psychologist (particularly one who offers Medicare rebates). The time I don’t have to spend on Medicare-specific admin writing letters and filing paperwork is time I can be sending you a text or a voice message, sending you a tool or doing something that’s actually propelling your growth and healing.

What if I have more complex trauma and need longer than 3 months?

That’s totally fine, the 14 session package is simply a starting point that I’ve found effective for most people. Severe PTSD and complex trauma will likely take longer.

To book a free discovery call click HERE